Thursday, 5 June 2014

Come and hear Sandra 's gist...!

I am moved to do this post, this is something I owe to my Generation, Generation Y (born in the 1980s and early 1990s...) also the generations before them can pick a few lessons. Indeed the world is changing and I must say right now to those who have sat on their butts expecting the world to revolve around the things they used to know and the hypocrisy they mask behind so-called society expectations ...Wake up, its 2014!

I’ll try to be brief because this matter for ground “e tey wen e start” … We live in a time where the younger generations are really taking advantage of the shifts in our time through technology, smarter communication, smarter learning to actually make something out of their lives beyond the ways or techniques that the people before us believe is the way to achieve it. Today we have CEO's in their teenage and early 20s. They probably do not have to wake up as early as the old folks and join the ‘rat race’(not that this is a bad thing) before they make a million. They also do not necessarily get to slave away at a desk or in the four walls of a building called "the Job" to make a buck.

Its the Internet generation, where if you are tech-savvy or are blessed to "think out side the box", above the inhibitions and limitations the society has placed on us like a dome, the sky is really just the starting point.

Now this is where I have the problem, with stigmatization on gender and age, If you are a female and I have just described your situation up there, and maybe you happen to have gotten some material gains from your hustle like a good car and a nice apartment. The society somehow, some way just doesn’t get it. How could u? 25years old, you have made your first or near-million, rented a decent apartment and a car to move you around for better productivity, how is it that you achieved this without what they popularly call "runz"? No oh! No babes its just not possible. 

Do you know how many years it took your brilliant uncle to get a car? He is a first class graduate oh, lets not even talk about his decent wife who's pretty job description is "full-house-wife" I mean why should she hustle, the place of a woman is in the kitchen, and little on the side business; provision store in-front of the house or "dubai things" she does because the society expects that the woman should not hustle, but get a husband and care for him. 

The trouble here however, is the fact that its going to take a miracle to rightly communicate to the people who perpetrate these thoughts that its not impossible. Its not impossible for a hardworking, smart, and creative thinker to get out of the box and achieve much in her younger years. And nope! she isn't setting herself up for a no-marriage life; she is setting herself up for the best life because that’s what we all deserve. 

Its no longer the era of the hardworking man and his emotionally-domestic-supporting wife, it is the era of "one can chase a thousand, two can chase ten thousands" and together you can build your empire. After all, it takes a queen to marry a king, this type of young lady, is to be desired but cowards will scurry away nevertheless, that just leaves clearer path for the Kings to appear. 

So dear young lady, yes its you I am talking to, don’t stop the hustle, they say you need experience to achieve some feats in your career, I say you need to work smart and be courageous. They say you shouldn't get a decent apartment, your dream car so as not to chase a man away, I say you do what you have to do to better position you to achieve more; your environment, E.Q and I. Q is very key. And after all said and done in no time they ‘ll come to see, you were not just another fluke. 

---Thumbs up to all the Sandras out there!


8 comments:

  1. Good piece Temi, I also think it is high time ladies took their destinies in their own hands and down consequences.

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  2. This is just so on point! Gbam! i tire for people with negative mind-set to ones success!

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    1. Itiolaaa! Hmm Everyone should watch out for this young Lady, She is a gifted singer and got a single already, She is simply known as "Itiola Dada", a Generation Y for sure and is really determined. Nice one

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  3. Bravo Temi, u spoke d mind of many sandra's out there. As for me o nothing fit hold me down,if them like make them talk. Hian! Pearl 17

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    1. Thanks Pearl 17, one very smart-hard-working young lady I know. Your courage is one every girl should emulate. Yes o! "Ignore them till they fade away" abi that's how T.I puts it....

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  4. So well written. Truth be told abeg, our society is a long way from over coming all this bias, misconceptions and stereotypes. A young lady's life should not be directed by other pples fears and limitations, it should be guided by the goals, dreams, talents, visions, aspirations and passion and if there is monetary rewards on the way all the more rewarding. Girls should learn to live with a proud posture as long as they are not doing anything indecent, anyone who objects can hug the nearest transformer...lol
    Live long, Happy and Proud!

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    1. Tonia, that was insightful, thank u for that comment and I do hope readers take the cue. Lol @the transformer part Hahaha!

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